New Year Same You Because, Mama, You're Already Amazing
Ok Ladies! Here we are, in the first week of a brand new year. Did you make resolutions this year? I know why people make them- it’s like a fresh page, a new start, so it makes for the perfect opportunity to improve ourselves, right?
To be honest, I see New Year’s Resolutions as (another) way for moms to continue to beat themselves up for not being perfect. It’s actually a really nifty reminder that you didn’t keep your resolutions from last year-so in a way it feels like a failure.
I think I've had a running list of the things that I was going to improve about myself for about ten years.
Here’s how it looked:
This year I’m going to:
- Lose weight
- Exercise more
- Drink less wine
- Be more patient
- Find more “Me-Time”
- Be a sexier wife
Yup. All those years, all those goals; and all those ways to feel guilty and disappointed in myself. (But to be fair- drinking wine does technically make me more patient and a sexier wife, and where does a mom actually find “Me-Time”? )
Well, you know what? I’m done with all that. From this new year forward, I will celebrate my successes over the past year, rather than focus on my failures:
- I kept my kids alive for another year
- I had a lot of fun times while drinking that wine
- Starting a business and launching an app has taught me INCREDIBLE patience
- I’m just as amazing at all of this as I was last year.
It’s not hard to make your own list. In fact, I hope you burn all of the “changes” you want to make going ahead and embrace all of the incredible things you’ve accomplished over the last year. You’re a mama, so I know you’ve done things that mean the world to someone.
My husband often tells me to “Celebrate your successes!” and I always that thought sounded a little too corporate for me to embrace. But when you think about it, if we celebrate our successes at the end of every day we would probably go to bed realizing that we’re actually killing it at this mom-thing! Even if your success was just putting on clean socks or getting to work on time or not yelling when your tween talked back at you today. It’s all success.
New Year Same You Because Mama, You're Already Amazing.
Joanne Ilaqua - CEO of MamaSoup
Hey there, I’m Joanne.
I’ve spent about 20 years serving women as a nurse, doula and Lamaze educator. I have 4 kids and I know firsthand how lonely and isolating motherhood can be, so I created MamaSoup. I'm mostly known for my love of red wine, spontaneously singing and my confidence in being my true self on social media. When I’m not busy building women up, you can catch me taking Instagram stories of my bulldog Ruby, watching The Handmaid’s Tale, playing MUber (Mom Uber) to my kids or vacationing in my favourite town: Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.
I love serving the world by providing a space for moms to connect and support each other. In my opinion, moms are the backbone of communities because they are (literally) raising the future!
As the founder and CEO of MamaSoup, I’ve been featured on CHEX TV Morning Show, KawarthaNOW, Economic Development- The City of Kawartha Lakes and MyKawartha.
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