Join my Free Virtual Book Club and Discussion Just for Moms (Starts September 8th, 2019)
Have you looked in the mirror lately and asked yourself, Why don’t I love being a mom all the time?
I've wondered if I was the shittiest mom around because I don’t look at my life with the heart-eyes emoji. I’d look around at other moms at the grocery store, the park and even in the waiting room at the doctor’s office and they just seemed to have never-ending patience and admiration for their kids, even when they were clearly being little assholes.
It took me a long time to start talking to other moms about it because it felt like I had a really dirty secret: sometimes being a mom was really boring, repetitive, stressful and lonely. But one day my friend Andrea was over with her kids. All of our kids were acting up and I (half-jokingly) said,
Sometimes I give them the finger when their backs are turned.
The look on her face was a mixture of surprise, joy and shock. At first I was afraid that she thought I was a terrible person, but then I realized that she was relieved that I'd said it! “Oh my GAWD, me tooooo!!” she laughed. It was then that I realized that it was okay to talk about the tough parts of being a mom. It was perfectly fine to acknowledge that women who loved their kids to the ends of the earth weren’t always in love with motherhood.
Bedtime? Ugh. Couldn’t stand it some nights.
Another ‘round of UNO? Somebody poke my eyes out.
Grocery shopping with 4 kids? Absolutely ridiculous.
Let me be clear- I love my kids. I love being a mom most of the time. And so do you. But it’s just not possible to love every single angle of this gig. And when you start to realize that you don’t have to, it can really alleviate a lot of anxiety and guilt!
Recently, I read the book “Happy Parents Happy Kids” by Canadian bestselling author and weekend columnist for CBC Radio, Ann Douglas. This book is based on interviews with real parents who were brave enough to be raw and honest about parenthood. They chat about how much anxiety, guilt and stress they feel to do everything right and balance all the things. They feel so stretched out that all of the responsibilities aren’t being met- kinda like when you try to stretch a small piece of Saran wrap over a big bowl: little cracks and holes start to appear.
But you know what I loved most about this book? Ann Douglas writes about all of the ways that being a happy parent is hard but she also provides a ton of ways to make it easier! It’s not just a “sit and bitch” book, it provides real solutions to some of the hardest parts of parenting.
I reached out to Ann to see if we could team up and create a free virtual book club and talk about her book. I really wanted to use "Happy Parents Happy Kids" as a backdrop for such an important discussion that moms should be having.
Imagine my delight when she said a big, resounding YES!
So, Mama. No matter what stage of motherhood you’re at right now, I encourage you to join us for this discussion. Ann Douglas and I will be meeting on Facebook LIVE each week to work our way through the chapters starting September 8th, 2019. We will hold other discussions through an anonymous platform so we can share anything and everything, without guilt.
I seriously hope you’ll join us because I want you to feel less stress and anxiety about motherhood and more happiness. After all, you’re doing the hardest job on the planet right now. You deserve to feel happier while you do it.
Joanne Ilaqua - CEO of MamaSoup
Hey there, I’m Joanne.
I’ve spent about 20 years serving women as a nurse, doula and Lamaze educator. I have 4 kids and I know firsthand how lonely and isolating motherhood can be, so I created MamaSoup. I'm mostly known for my love of red wine, spontaneously singing and my confidence in being my true self on social media. When I’m not busy building women up, you can catch me taking Instagram stories of my bulldog Ruby, watching The Handmaid’s Tale, playing MUber (Mom Uber) to my kids or vacationing in my favourite town: Cabo San Lucas, Mexico.
I love serving the world by providing a space for moms to connect and support each other. In my opinion, moms are the backbone of communities because they are (literally) raising the future!
As the founder and CEO of MamaSoup, I’ve been featured on CHEX TV Morning Show, KawarthaNOW, Economic Development- The City of Kawartha Lakes and MyKawartha.
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